You asked, Max answered! 💬

The Inaugural AskMax

I got a lot of sweet messages in addition to some great questions! (I also got a lot of not-so-sweet messages, but that’s between you, God, and your internet provider.)

My goal is to make AskMax a video feature each month, but my busy schedule did not allow for this round. Producing video is easy once you are in a flow, but I want to learn the technical ropes and figure out how I want it to feel as LoveNote enters a new medium. That is not to be rushed. You’ll have to enjoy the text version for our first adventure.

♥️ These are actually two questions, but I’m going to combine them. They might not seem related at first, but let me cook:

• “In regard to a client, how old is too old?”

• “How often do you have (professional) sex that feels good? 10% of the time? 100% of the time?”

I don’t know what percentage to give it, but its actually much more often than you may think! One of my favorite parts of the life is getting to experience people of different ages and demographics. One of the biggest factors I notice in a partner’s “skill set“ is age. I would love to write a piece on comparing the sexual proclivities of boomers, gen x, millennials, and gen z. There are very specific differences and styles between the generations that would be really fun to dissect! I have a lot of observations and opinions on this…

I haven’t yet discovered a “too old”, but there is a “too young” for me personally. I prefer not to see anyone under the age of 27. I’m open to being proven wrong, but you have to be an extremely special boy to get my attention any younger than that.

♥️ “What are your thoughts on "review culture?" It seems like gents need some way to verify you (plural) and yet so many reviews are misogynistic. Is there a balance that we can reach so everyone is happy and all can feel respected?”

I’m not as bothered by review culture these days. I have reviews out there if you know where to look for them. I wasn’t around for the height of the boards, but its to my understanding back then it could make or break your career. All of the power was placed in the hands of the reviewers who would use it to coerce and intimidate. These days, it’s not taken as seriously and is more a niche insular community. Its just an avenue to advertise for those who opt in. The control is back in the hands of the workers themselves for their career at large and that is best for everyone.

I think that review culture had its time and place, but now we have social media to verify. I post regularly on twitter where I interact with and meet up irl with other real providers, I have an (admittedly lapsed) Instagram, I write a weekly newsletter, and have a detailed website where you can cross reference all of the social links to see they are all the same person.

I’m very bothered by the men who claim they are worried about safety and want me to bend over backwards to prove I am the girl in the photos. Its a lot of work to maintain an active online presence. If it matters as much as you say it does, you will put in a fraction of the work I do to demonstrate I’m real and do your own research before contacting me.

(Also, if you are asking this question, it implies you do understand that I am a real person, so I’m not understanding what else are you looking for that would make you “feel respected.”)

♥️ “If you had an opportunity to teach men something (and have it actually sink in), what would you want them to learn?”

I guess this is actually directed towards both men and women, but I want everyone to reacquaint themselves with the mechanics of flirting.

Men: Masculinity is attractive and not innately toxic in and of itself. The good boys do not have to continue self flagellating and making themselves small to make up for the dickheads of the world. You are in fact allowed to smile and say hello to women you’re interested in. You just need to understand the power imbalance and be able to read the room to see if your advances are even welcome. You also need to be able to take a no without getting violent. You will have to risk rejection. It is unavoidable. It toughens you up and gives you useful information if you’re listening for it.

Women: If men need to learn how to read the room, we need to be able to work the room. Rom-coms and beauty commercials have forced this idea of “effortlessness” upon us. We are supposed to be blissfully unaware of how gorgeous we are while a man sees this alluring, yet demure inner light radiating from us and not be able to resist. But the reality is, if we want men to flirt with us, we have to be the ones to initiate. You have to actively participate in your love life, romance doesn’t just happen at you.

Flirting is a game where we pretend it’s the man who asserts himself, but it’s really the woman who kicks off the dance by signaling permission to approach with intentional eye contact and body language. Seduction is one of the most fun parts of being a girl, why deny ourselves that part of the game?! We don’t have to be good girls all the time… Again, you will have to risk rejection.

Girls need to master the art of boldly sending out the signals and boys need to get fluent in reading them. I see men too scared to politely introduce themselves at a bar and women avoiding eye contact only to be absolutely shocked when no one buys them a drink. Everyone goes home alone.

♥️ How did you get into the industry?

Thank you for asking! My origin story is a pretty unique way of entering this space and I think it deserves its own dedicated post. I think a lot of you will relate to it more than you might think ♥️